Today we’d like to introduce you to Kimmy Seltzer.
Thanks for sharing your story with us Kimmy. So, let’s start at the beginning and we can move on from there.
So much of life is impacted by outward appearances. Decisions are made, judgments are formed, relationships shift, lives are altered–all by what we perceive on the outside. What we see becomes what we inadvertently believe.
Most often, our mindset dictates how we show up, whether in relationships or in our own personal pursuits. If we are not in the right frame of mind, our actions and demeanor reflect that. Especially when it comes to social settings, we don’t dress the part until we feel ready, aligned and have fully embraced our confidence.
For more than a decade, as a licensed therapist, I taught individuals to work on themselves from the inside out. But then I experienced a personal transformation that flipped that script and changed the way I help people today. Years ago, as a young mom of two during the time I was a traditional therapist, I was blindsided by divorce. There was a period of time where I literally couldn’t get out of bed, let alone out of my own way. I wore enormous oversized maternity clothes and did everything I could to not be seen. Until one day, I woke up and looked in the mirror, and I was horrified by what I saw. Before me was a sad, frumpy mom who couldn’t get out of her own way. And here I was a therapist…I should know better. I had a ton of counseling myself, a great support system but I still felt stuck. Inside out…hogwash! I was standing completely still in analysis paralysis. I needed movement. I needed action. Deciding it was time for a change, I went shopping and was encouraged to try on something completely out of my comfort zone…a red dress that looked like it was three sizes too small. But the personal shopper assured me that it was my color and it was my size. So I tried it on like Cinderella, twirled around and looked in the mirror and bam. This was what I call my “red dress moment” where everything shifted for me. Seeing myself dressed that way–in clothing that actually fit my body and in a color that was to be seen. This was me. But I had to see it in order to believe it to create action and build my confidence.
And after years of working with women and men from all backgrounds, cultures and beliefs, what I learned is that confidence is gained faster when you approach it from the outside in. How you are showing up externally can literally shift how you view yourself, and in turn, how others view you. I believe confidence is at the core of achieving our desires through experience and action. It’s the gateway to love, prosperity and ultimately, happiness. Through my products, programs and coaching, I help people build confidence from the outside in–to find the love of their life, to conquer their social fears, to finally love themselves. And from that framework, I help people with my unique Charisma Quotient formula, implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to people’s lives.
Has it been a smooth road?
Building a business is never a “smooth” road. But the bumps along the way has been instrumental in helping me grow and get to where I am today. The huge bump was my personal journey as I described in the last question. Adversity, I feel are gifts in disguise but you don’t see it at the time it’s happening. It’s not until you are through it, you look back and see those gifts. For me, my determination to help others transform the way I did was the motivating drive. But building a business with NO business training wasn’t easy. The transition of being a therapist and having a regular job to understanding how to be an entrepreneur was a big adjustment. It wasn’t just about helping people. I had to learn a lot about marketing, building funnels, creating web pages, developing videos and podcasts, navigating social media and more all WHILE helping people. And if that wasn’t hard enough, I still had to be a single mom to very young kids. Managing time and compartmentalizing my life has been an ongoing obstacle but it has made me stronger and empowered in many ways.
We’d love to hear more about your business.
I help high achieving singles create authentic dating strategies so they can increase their confidence and become irresistibly magnetic to attract the love they deserve. I’m a therapist, dating coach and makeover expert who helps people transform their style, build confidence and find love from the outside in using my Charisma Quotient Formula. In this formula, I raise people’s Style, Emotional, and Social IQ. I specialize working on body language, first impressions, image and messaging and how it impacts attraction. I offer Virtual Makeovers, Phone Coaching Programs, Style Sessions, Retreats and Flirt Workshops online and off. What makes me unique is that I combine therapy, coaching and image consulting to give a holistic approach in helping people achieve success and start from the outside before doing the inner work. I think it’s super important to pay attention to how people market themselves upon first impression which has a direct correlation into self-esteem, confidence and image they portray. I consider myself more of an authentic dating strategist and confidence therapist these days because I believe that people need more than just talking and analyzing. They need an action plan and strategies to break old habits and patterns.
Is our city a good place to do what you do?
I love LA! For me, Los Angeles has been the perfect city for my business. There is so much creativity, opportunity, resources and is a big draw for people to come here from other places across the US. I think this city really supports and cultivates a community for entrepreneurs. I also feel like we are one of the cities at the forefront of new, innovative things happening in the entrepreneurial world so you have an opportunity and experience to get a head of the curve. Given the world today becoming more and more remote, Los Angeles is a great tribe of people with many resources to support new virtual businesses.
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