First impressions happen in an instant and they’re based on two things: The clothes you’re wearing and the attitude you’re rocking. That means if you want to get asked out again and again by the men you want, you need to make sure your clothes honestly reflect who you are and what you want.

When you’re first getting to know a guy, you want your clothes to show him that you’re sexy, subtle and confident, which is a surprisingly difficult thing to do. There’s a really fine line between sexy and skimpy and subtle and buttoned up, so to help you figure it out I’ve compiled a list of my five best tips for using your clothes to send the right message to men. These tips are simple and straightforward, so read them today and use them on your date this weekend!

Tip #1: Dress like YOU.

Let’s say you have a big date tonight, so you choose a super sexy cocktail dress that shows off your legs, even though you’re normally more of a jeans and tee shirt type of woman. If you’re not 100% confident in that dress, or if you think you’ll spend half the night pulling it down to cover your thighs, do not wear it! Only wear clothes that you feel authentic and comfortable in, because those feelings will translate to confidence – the #1 thing every single guy wants, whether he’s 15 or 72.

Tip #2: Think about the message you’re sending.

If you do go out wearing that super skimpy, electric red dress, just be conscious of the message your outfit is sending to men. My male clients all agree that it’s sexier when there’s a little mystery. For example, a hint of lace peeking through your blouse is subtle and sexy enough to leave him wanting more.

Tip #3: Pay attention to fabric.

Men LOVE soft, silky fabrics, so make sure you wear something that appeals to his sense of touch. That sensuality drives men wild, and he’ll be dying to put his arms around you.

Tip #4: Wear lingerie.

Even if you’re single and have no intention of sleeping with your date, wear lingerie because the sexiness you feel is going to shine through. Of course your date won’t know what you’re wearing underneath, but just YOU knowing it will bring the sex appeal that guys can’t resist.

Tip #5: Focus on being feminine.

Hands down, next to confidence, ALL men want a feminine woman. Wear a skirt or a dress, and focus on creating a soft appearance and demeanor. Trust me, your date will love it.

A final note…

As long as you’re dressing in a way that feels authentic to you and doesn’t reveal too much skin, you’re on the right track. Just focus on being subtle, sexy and confident, and I promise your date won’t be to get you out of his head.