You have read every advice book on how to date, attended hundreds of relationship seminars and endured years of therapy in order to get a handle on your love life.

Your bookshelves are lined with self-help books from which you can even recite excerpts and quotes, but to no avail, you are still single and have not attracted the right person in your life. Many of my clients come to me frustrated, stating that they have done so much work on themselves and they still keep striking out in the dating battleground.

So what is going on?

Date Ideas – Woman Frustrated Getting a DateThere are several challenges when it comes to dating. Different issues arise based on many variables such as age, family of origin, previous relationships/patterns, living environments and many others. So the truth of the matter is, not all “dating rules” apply to everyone.

When I coach clients in the field I have them put away the books and feel the experience. Try throwing away all of the guidelines in your head and instead embody these secret weapons that will help you take action and transform your dating life.

 

Get Out Of Your Head And Just Do It
Sometimes too much reading and not enough “doing” can really hold you back. You might be on overload with way too many facts and theories swimming in your head and you are forgetting to just be in the moment and having fun. You know all that you need to know so it’s time to take action and move past the fears and obstacles that are holding you back.

 

Get Out Of Your Head And Create Connections
Date Ideas: Happy Date in CafeAvoid asking a million questions of your date and share personal stories instead. This allows someone to really “see” you, creates connection and elicits more exciting conversation between the two of you. Letting that person know who you are and showing emotions and vulnerabilities will help you connect with him or her faster. The more you connect on an emotional level, the more someone will want to know you more.

 

Get Out Of Your Head And Turn Your Cab Light On
Many times when you are too focused on the results you forget to be in the moment and you send messages with your body language that you are either closed, desperate or rushing the interaction. Instead, turn your cab light on and start sending smoke signals to someone you are attracted to that you are available and open to talking.

Smile, laugh and make eye contact with everyone when you walk into a room so that you create a magnetic energy. It’s time to take off the blinders and take notice of who is looking at you.

 

Get Out Of Your Head And Get Sexy
Sometimes when you are stuck in a rut and have a negative outlook on dating, you turn off your sexual drive and energy. Remember to flirt and create sexual tension with your body.

Pay attention to the messages you are sending with your words. Avoid getting placed in the friend zone by developing the art of sexy conversation. Friends talk about the weather, sports, and politics, so steer clear of those topics. Instead, share things about yourself that reveal more of who you are but don’t give away too much too soon too fast. Don’t tell your whole life story to the person you’re interested in. Always leave them wanting more. Build mystery and excitement.

Overall, let go of the monkey chatter and theories that are swarming in your head. It’s time to get out there and implement all that you have learned. Before you know it, instead of saying “I will,” you’ll be saying, “I do.” And if you are wanting a little more help with getting out of your head, then contact me at my website for a wing gal session so I can help you put these words into action.

 

 

 

 

This article was originally published on Digital Romance.