Perhaps you’ve heard about the Laws of Attraction. But how specifically and quickly do you attract a man to get him to want more?

People’s desire for one another has a direct correlation to how comfortable each appears in their own skin and how solid they are in knowing themselves. When you feel confident, you attract love and opportunity in your life. But feeling secure when it comes to dating is easier said than done, especially when we are not feeling good about ourselves or we get nervous when there is a guy we really like.

The good news is, is that there are ways to overcome those insecurities by practicing and embodying some easy tasks. To get started, study these tips on the do’s and don’ts in attracting a man so you can be on your way to feeling “dating confident.” Women are often amazed at how doing even some of these subtle suggestions in each category can get great and quick results.

 

1. Pay attention to your body language.

Keeping that in mind, your overall goal here is to use your feminine body language to show him that you’ll say yes if he asks you out.

Don’t: Be closed.

Many times when you are too focused on the results, you forget to be in the present. You send messages with your body language that you are “closed,” and thereby unapproachable.  Avoid looking down, standing with your arms folded or holding a purse in front of your body like a shield.

Do: Smile at everyone around you.

Invite people into your world. Notice I say smile at everyone, not just at the guy you’re interested in. This is because smiling radiates positive energy and can cause powerful things to happen.

For example, let’s say you give a warm smile to the older lady standing behind you in line at the grocery store. That hot guy a few feet away in the produce section might notice, get the impression that you’re a friendly person, and come talk to you. See how that works?

 

2. Look at what you are wearing.

Men like to date women who look feminine, so if you really want that guy to see you as more than a friend or coworker, you need to dress the part!

Don’t: Wear men’s attire.

Whatever you do, avoid wearing a corporate suit on a date! Men want to see you in clothes that enhance your feminine and sexy side, not remind them of the corporate world.

Do: Dress feminine.

Whenever you’re meeting a man – especially if it’s for the first time – embrace your feminine, sexy side. Put away the boyfriend jeans, the Uggs and your corporate blazers,and slip on a sexy pair of heels and a gorgeous dress that you look and feel absolutely amazing in. Trust me – he will love it. Wear skirts, giggle, create softness and be light and open.

 

3. Have a positive attitude.

Research shows that upon first impression, a person’s attitude is one of the most important determining factors of likability. That is why it’s crucial to make sure you are in a positive mood when entering a social situation or on a date.

Don’t: Be negative.

Men get completely turned off if they perceive you as controlling, overpowering, a know-it-all, or that you are treating the guy like a business partner. If you work in a stressful work setting and you have a date after work, make sure you are “shaking off the day” so that you can get into a fun, flirty mood.

Do: Get in a happy mood!

As I’ve said, research shows that men are most attracted to happy, fun, and confident women. Focus on cultivating those qualities within yourself and your contagious positivity will attract great men no matter where you go! Be the person everyone wants to meet and create an energy around you. Appear friendly and approachable.

 

So next time you are out and about or on a first date, pay attention to these main areas when it comes to attraction. What is exciting about these secret tips is that they are easy things to change, incorporate and experiment with in order to see if you get a different result with men.

 

 

 

This article was originally published on Digital Romance here.